VANDAG VIER EK MY MAMMA

Sy verjaar! En ek is soooo dankbaar vir wie sy is en wat sy vir ons beteken! Wat ‘n ongelooflike voorreg om mens se ouers in hierdie leeftyd nog by jou te kan hê…en die belangrike rol wat oupas en oumas in kleinkinders se lewens speel, is onvervangbaar… #dankbaar

Mamma jy het my méér
as 9 maande gedra
Dankie dat jy altyd daar is
as ek sou vra

‘n Ware voorbeeld
van ‘n sterk en dapper vrou
Jy’t my geleer om lief te hê
en Jesus met my hele hart te vertrou

Dankie dat ons kan deel,
kan kuier, kan lag,
Dat jy altyd jou álles gee
sonder om iets terug te verwag

Jou passie en lewenslus
is aansteeklik
Jou hart vir die dinge van die Here,
inspirerend

Veels geluk, mooie Mamma,
omdat jy verjaar!
Mag God Mamma (vir ons onthalwe)
nog baie jare spaar!

MINDER||WAARDIG

20 voor 7 op ‘n doodgewone Dinsdagaand. Ek borsvoed vir Boetie-lyfie aan die slaap…Ek weet ek moet eerder my Bybel ‘app’ oopmaak…maar hier vind ek my weer breindood deur Instagram se ‘news feed’ blaai….en daar’s dit weer. Dáái effense gevoel van ongelukkigheid. Is dit ontevrededenheid? Ek voel krapperig. Ek sit en vergelyk my híér en nóú met die helder prentjie-perfekte beelde wat my deur hierdie een-dimensionele selfoonskermpie aangluur.

En ek voel skielik…wat is die woord waarvoor ek soek…’inadequate’. Nie goed genoeg nie? Minder…waardig.
Maak dít wat ek doen enigsins ‘n verskil?

Minderwaardigheid verlam jou. Jy voel gede-aktiveer. Jy voel skielik…niks. Jy hou op glo. Jy hou op groei. Jy hou op blom. “You become inward focused instead of outward focused.” En dis presies wat die vyand wil hê: as jy deur hierdie leuens verlam word, kan jy nie effektief wees en jou volle potensiaal bereik nie – die lewensdoel waarvoor jý geroep is.

Mede-mamma. Hierdie skryf ek vanaand vir myself. Maar dalk moet jy dit ook lees…
Jy het ‘n belangrike rol te speel. En die impak is ver groter as wat jy in jou leeftyd sal verstaan.

Wat is jou sfeer van invloed?
Kyk om jou. Jou man? Jou kinders? Jou ouers? Jou vriendinne, werkskollegas, pasiënte, kliënte… Die onnies by jou kinders se skool, die vroutjie agter die ‘till’ of die petroljoggie, koerantverkoper, karwag… Jy kry die idee. Elke liewe dag raak jy iemand aan. Al is dit net deur te glimlag.

》》》》Don’t ever stop believing, dreaming, pursuing, achieving… Make an impact. Make your mark.《《《《

Hoe mooi is hierdie?
“Men and women who have lived wisely and well will shine brilliantly, like the cloudless, star-strewn night skies. And those who put others on the right path to life will glow like stars forever.”
Daniel 12:3 MSG

JY IS WAARDIG. SKYN ☆

Vrede ♡

LEWENSDOEL

Jesus, Jesus
‘n Veilige vesting is U naam
Die naam waaraan ek vasklou
as alles rondom my vergaan

My stem is weg
My bene bewe
Sal U ooit my
(ongeloof)
kan vergewe?

Met knieë gebuig
en arms omhoog
My oë is nat,
maar my keel is droog

In die reënboog óf die reën
In die swaarkry óf die seën

U bly dieselfde
U bly getrou
As die lewe skaaf
kan U breek en bou

Wie ek is
is vir U glorie
In my hart
skryf U U storie

Ware liefde
en sielsgenoot
Aanmekaar geweef
in my moederskoot

In U palms
staan my naam
My lewensdoel
bereik ons sáám.

SAAM

Sáám kan ons berge versit. Sáám kan ons oorwin. Sáám kan ons die wêreld verander. Een goeie daad op ‘n slag. Een glimlag op ‘n slag.

Moenie toelaat dat enige iemand (dis eintlik net die vyand) jou minderwaardig laat voel nie. Jy is uniek. Met al jou talente en gawes en letsels en tekortkominge en foute en al.

Ons het mekaar nodig.

Sáám.

Vrede, liefste mammas

Asseblief hou op
om jouself te vergelyk
Jy’s uniek en mooi
As mens binne kyk:
Jy is dapper
Jy is sterk,
Elke letsel
Elke merk –
skets in detail
jou verlede
Jy’t gekom tot híér
vir ‘n rede
Tree nader aan my
en strek uit jou hand
Sáám kom ons uit
aan die anderkant ♡

DIE HAMSTERWIEL

Dit voel die laaste tyd of ek op ‘n hamsterwielietjie vasgevang is en iemand het die hokkie se deurtjie styf toe gemaak. Ek beur net al aan vorentoe…ek móét vorentoe. Maar ek beweeg dan net mooi niks nie!😳 Vandag was beslis weer een van dáái dae – een vir die (mammadag)boeke…

Dit was ‘n warboel van snotneusies blaas, vuil vingertjies met ‘wetwipes’ afvee (na Oudste al weer die ou kole in die braai ontdek het – ek moet tóg vir manlief herinner om die braai skoon te maak), die swartkolle op die bank skoonmaak (ek was te laat met die ‘wetwipes’ 😬), neusdruppels ingooi (kleinboet háát dit), Panadostroop toedien, troos, eierbroodjies smeer (en Oudste soebat om asseblief ietsie te eet), saam met Oudste op die bed “bietjie gaan rus” (volgens hom gaan hy beslis nie slaap nie!), wéér troos, dan vir boetiebaba aan die slaap sus, net om te hoor hoe Oudste histeries in sy kamer huil… Gelukkig is my Regterhand ook in die mengelmoes van gebeure en ek stel haar gou aan om by kleinboet oor te vat (ek gaan regtig nog êrens ‘n huldeblyk aan haar skryf, want sjoe, sy’s een van die sterkste vroue wat ek ken …).

Bo in die kamer sit my kabouter kiertsregop, tamatierooi in die gesig, trane en snot wat loop (sorrie julle) en ‘n pynlike uitdrukking op sy gesiggie. Ek kan sien hy’s al weer koorsig… Jip, jy het reg afgelei… My 2 “mini-me’s” is siek. Al weer. Oudste kabouter is natuurlik laasweek vir die eerste keer in 6 weke terug skooltjie toe. Ons moes hom noodgedwonge vir ‘n tydjie uithaal oor hy al die skooltjie-kieme saam hom huistoe dra (dis hoe kleinboet in die hospitaal met meningitis opgeëindig het). Hy het dié keer nie eers ‘n week gehou tot die neusie begin loop het nie. En toe is dit boetie se beurt. En nou is dokter-mamma ook ‘n pasiënt. Probleem is net, vir mamma is daar nie rus nie. Huisdinge moet aangaan…en die kinders soek hul mamma. 100% van mamma.

Goeie d…donkie, besef ek nou: Ek’t al wéér te min water vandag gedrink…en daar lê my verlate 2 kopseerpille nog net so op die toonbank! Deur al die deurmekaarspul het ek (gelukkig) van my knaende min-slaap hoofpyn vergeet…

Vanaand is ek dankbaar vir ‘n stil huis. Ek luister…en hoor net Rupert, ons swart mini Schnauzer, se gesnork. Vanaand beteken die stilte: ons het dit “gemaak”, ‘we survived another day’, die kinders is rustig – pynvry en koorsvry. En hopelik is môre weer ‘n beter en helderder dag. Met méér grappies-en-lag en minder snot-en trane…

“Who’s with me”, mammas? 🙋🏼‍♀️

Vrede (amen!) & lekker slaap!

YOU KNOW ME

You know my frame
You sense my fears
You hear my laughter
You see my tears

You breathe out
And I breathe in
When I’m at my end
That’s where You begin

If I make mistakes
If I stumble and fall
Your grace is sufficient
You forgive it all

Your love is outrageous
It’s intense and it’s sweet
Despite all my failures
You swept me off my feet

Your love reassures me:
“To sometimes doubt is okay
If you draw closer to Me
I will meet you halfway”

Alyssa Loftus @medicinemommy

EVA

Het jy geweet?
God se skepping was eers vervolmaak die oomblik toe JY gevorm is.

Jy is die toonbeeld van God se koesterende karakter – jou vroulikheid, jou innerlike krag, jou dans, jou lag.

Jy voed, versorg, genees, bedaar, bemoedig, versterk.
Jy gee jou álles.

Eva, jy met jou loshare, met jou nat hare, met jou ‘ponytail’, met jou mamma-bolla.

Jy, met jou rooi lippe, met jou ‘nude’ lippe, met jou smokey eyeshadow en donker maskara.

Jy, met jou skoon gesig, jong gesig, plooi gesig, dalk-‘n-puisie-of-drie gesig.

Jy, met jou sweetpakbroek, met jou blommerok, met jou hoëhakskoene of jou gehekelde ‘slippers’.

Eva, met jou spiere, met jou ferm lyf. Eva, met jou drie maagrolletjies, met al jou kurwes.

Jy.

Punt.

Nie maar nie…of nie…want nie…

Net jy, Eva.
Jy was nog altyd (goed) genoeg.
Vanaf die begin van tyd.

Vreugdevolle Vrouedag, liefste mammas!





DEUR DIK & DUN

Ek het my al aan beide kante van die spektrum bevind: bietjie té maer en effe té mollig.

Op skool was my metabolisme ‘n kalorie-etende masjien. Ek kon pakke ‘Speckled Eggs’ en 150g boksies Smarties (in die fliek) opeet…sonder om ‘n gram ekstra op te tel!

In Graad 9 het ek ‘n noupassende swart fluweelrokkie na ons skool se Valentynsdans gedra. Ek sal nooit vergeet hoe een van die aantreklike ouens in die klas vierkantig voor my kom staan het, sy arms uitgestrek met hande op my kaal skouerknoppe. “Sjoe, maar jy’s…máér”, was sy woorde. Ek het yskoud geword. Dalk was dit van die koue aandlug deur die oop saaldeur. Dalk was dit van skok…en skaamte.

Nou, op amper-32, is die nagevolge van 2 swangerskappe duidelik op my lyf sigbaar. Rolletjies om die middel (ek’s nogsteeds te moeg om te oefen…) en rekmerke op my maag (veral om die naeltjie), “penmerke” op my bene (daar’s niks uitspattigs aan spatare nie), en ‘n hele paar ekstra gryshare. Ek pas nou net in my ‘fat jeans’ en ‘leggings’…

Ten spyte van alles, is ek lief vir my lyf. Ek weet hierdie vleesboksie gaan nóóit weer kan lyk soos die jong-bokkie op universiteit nie! En dis okay.

Met hierdie liggaam het ek 2 seuns tot volterm gedra. Met hierdie liggaam het ek hulle in die wêreld gebring. Met hierdie liggaam het ek, en kan ek steeds vir Jongste, voed. Met hierdie liggaam sus ek vir skreeuende Boetie aan die slaap (al breek my rug en arms later af!). Met hierdie liggaam omvou ek vir snikkende Oudste as hy van sy ‘balance bike’ afgeval het. Met hierdie liggaam omhels ek my familie en vriende. En met hierdie liggaam is ek lief vir my wederhelfte.

Mede-mamma,
Wees vandag lief vir jou lyf!
Ons vergeet soms waartoe ons liggaam (en siel en gees) instaat is.

Vrede,
Alyssa ♡

ECZEMA – part 2

Written by Dr Nické Theron, Pediatrician.

Eczema is a chronic disease and sadly it is not (yet) curable. It is however possible to control the symptoms. The aim is to get the acute inflammation of the skin under control (usually with topical steroids added to your normal regime), and then maintaining a healthy skin barrier by keeping the skin hydrated. It is thus very important that you understand the disease and what causes flare-ups in your child (see previous post) so that you can create the best management plan with your doctor.


…being strengthened with all power according to His glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience…

Col 1:11

General Tips and Tricks:

• Avoid triggers as far as possible. Triggers differ for each child and can be as simple as: extreme cold or dry environments, sweating, emotional stress or anxiety or exposure to certain chemicals or cleaning solutions eg soaps, perfumes, cosmetics, wool, synthetic fibres.

• Keep the skin hydrated:
This is a very important part of the management plan. It is not necessary to buy the most expensive ointments; research show they do not necessarily work better than the ones you can buy in Dischem.

Your moisturizer needs to tick the following boxes:

  • It must be an emollient or ointment, lotions can worsen the dehydration of the skin.
  • Contain cetomacrogol (emulsifier), urea or glycerol (locks in moisture on the skin)
  • Contain NO colourants or fragrants. Be careful of any ointments containing “Sodium Lauryl Sulphate” as this can also break down the natural skin barrier.
  • E.g. in South Africa: Cetaphil, Epimax, Epiderm
    Best results when applied twice a day. Important to apply directly after bathing.

Bathtime talk: Lukewarm baths / showers soothe the skin but avoid long (10-15min) baths. Use a non-soap cleanser sparingly (you can use the same ointment that you apply after bathtime). In some cases a specialist may prescribe a “bleach bath” to decrease the amount of bacteria on the skin. Use a ¼ cup of bleach in a full bathtub (+- 150L) twice a week. (Discuss this with your doctor first.)

Medical treatment

Topical Steroids
Most children with eczema will use topical steroids at some point during the disease. The anti-inflammatory effect is very effective in the treatment of the itch and the inflammation of the skin and most mild and moderate cases of eczema respond quickly to these ointments.

There are many different types of topical steroids and they are classified according to their potency. Examples you may know is Hydrocortisone (Mylocort) which is a weak steroid, Methylprednisolone (Advantan) moderately strong, and Betamethasone (Repivate) one of the strongest steroids available to use on the skin. Your doctor will help you to weigh up the risks and benefits to decide which steroid cream to use.

When there is a flare-up of the eczema, use a stronger steroid cream once daily for 7-14 days, then switch to a weaker steroid until the lesions are gone

Steroids in general has a bad reputation because they have the potential to cause some nasty side effects. However, only 2% of the topical steroid is absorbed, and if you use it safely it can bring a lot of relief to your child. It is important to use the ointment sparingly (apply only a pea-size per affected area), apply only once a day, limit the duration of strong steroids to 14 days, use the weakest effective ointment, be careful in the face and skinfolds as these areas are more prone to side effects. Long term use of strong steroids may cause a steroid-crisis because the body stops making its own steroid-hormones that are vital in times of illness / surgery / injury.

Common side effects can be thinning of the skin (atrophy), small red / purple spider-veins (telangiectasia) or stretch marks may develop in the affected area or the steroid can irritate the skin causing a contact dermatitis.

Once you have control of the acute flare, it is important to maintain the control by using emollients consistently and in moderate / severe eczema you can also use intermittent topical steroids for 2 days in a week to minimise the side effects.

Sometimes it may be necessary to give a short course (3 days) of oral steroids to get control of a severe eczema flare, but this should be the last resort!

Topical calcineurin inhibitors
This is a relatively new class of treatments that are very expensive. Tacrolimus ointment (Protopic) / Pimecrolimus cream (Elidel) are effective to manage eczema and it has fewer side effects, but it does not work as quickly as steroids. It is better to use in sensitive areas such as the face and groin in children over 2yrs. There are still some concerns about long-term use (possible link to cancers later in life, this is still being investigated) and it is thus mostly used as a second line of therapy for children who does not respond to topical steroids.

Relieving itching
It is important to relieve itching as this is usually the most bothersome symptom and keeps children awake at night. Scratching also worsens the eczema lesions, so keep finger nails short!

Oral antihistamines such as Hydroxyzine (Atarax) may cause drowsiness which will improve sleep. Cetirizine (Zyrtec) can also be used.

Wet dressings/wraps (the topical steroid and emollient is applied under a wet gauze covered with a dry dressing) is very effective to soothe and hydrate the skin, loosen crusts, reduce itching and prevent scratching.

Alternative treatments:

  • Probiotics – research shows a small reduction in the symptoms which is not statistically significant. No serious side effects were noted so it may be worth it to test it in your child.
  • Melatonin – In two small randomized trials, melatonin supplementation reduced disease severity and improved sleep in children with eczema. Melatonin is a hormone and as such has its own risks and side effects. Please discuss with your doctor

Prevention of Eczema:

  • Use of emollient therapy from the first week of life has proven to reduce the risk of developing eczema before 1yr of age. This is a safe, cost-effective measure to use if you know your baby may be at risk.
  • Use of probiotics in the mother and the baby may prevent the development of eczema but more studies are necessary. This is also a relatively safe precaution to take.

Life with a child with eczema can be hard, but if you stay positive, build treatments into a fun routine and walk this road with your health care provider, there is light at the end of this tunnel.

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.

Corrie ten Boom

Pediatrics and Playdough & Medicine Mommy

Resources:

  • Miller DW, Koch SB, Yentzer BA, Clark AR, O’Neill JR, Fountain J, Weber TM, Fleischer AB Jr; “An over-the-counter moisturizer is as clinically effective as, and more cost-effective than, prescription barrier creams in the treatment of children with mild-to-moderate atopic dermatitis: a randomized, controlled trial.”; J Drugs Dermatol. 2011;10(5):531
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ECZEMA – part 1

Written by Dr Nické Theron, Pediatrician

Red rashes… there are so many things that could look the same, and each child’s rash reacts a little differently. Even in the Bible many chapters in Leviticus was devoted to different skin lesions. There is only a small amount of treatments available…but oh so so soooooo many “boererate” and little ointments, potions and lotions that everybody swears worked for their child. Luckily eczema is one of the rashes we actually do have some answers for, so let me share what I do know:

What is Eczema?

Eczema (also called atopic dermatitis) is a chronic inflammatory skin disease that usually starts before the age of 5 years. It affects up to 1 in 5 children worldwide, and it seems as though it is becoming even more common in developed countries. You are not alone in your struggles!

Genetics play a strong role so there is usually a family history that one or both parents have atopy (this means they are prone to food-allergies, eczema, allergic rhinitis and asthma). An abnormality in the outer barrier of the skin, the epidermis, leaves the skin vulnerable. Environmental irritants (such as grass, dust, heat, cold), allergens and microbes (such as bacteria and fungi) can now pass through, and the skin loses more water. Some children also have an abnormal immunological response to foreign proteins, worsening the inflammation of the skin. This cycle is a little like the debate about who comes first, the chicken or the egg. It is still unsure whether eczema starts “inside-out”, or “outside-in” and although specific food or aero-allergens can make it worse, it is not always the cause of eczema.

There is evidence that the microbiome on the skin (the “normal” bacteria and fungi that live on your skin in harmony) is disrupted in a child with eczema. This causes an overgrowth of bacteria (usually Staphylococcus Aureus) which could worsen the inflammation of the eczema. It is thus not a cause of eczema, but it can make it worse.

Although tonsils play a part in the immune system of the body, I could not find any information suggesting that it could play a role in the development of eczema.

Symptoms:

Dry skin, intense itching, patches of red skin with small bumps and some flaking of the skin can be seen in children with eczema. There can also be some blistering and watery fluids leaking from the lesions, causing crusts on the skin. Itchiness is often worse at night. Scratching can worsen the inflammation and introduce infections. The skin can become thickened or darkened or even scarred from the constant inflammation and scratching.

Eczema usually start before one year of age, and the area of the body affected by the eczema can differ between children but can also change in the same child over time. Infants most commonly have patches on their arms and legs, their cheeks or scalp. Older children are more affected on their backs and the creases of their elbows and knees. Some children are only affected on their hands, or around their eyes or lips.

The Eczema Journey:

Most children will outgrow their eczema by late childhood (80% clears up by 8years of age). If your child has a mild eczema and was diagnosed before 2yrs of age, the chances are good that your child will be eczema free soon.

However, if the eczema started before 2yrs of age, your child has a higher risk of developing other allergies and asthma. We call it the “allergic march”, meaning that if your child’s immune system is prone to over-react to foreign proteins encountered via the skin as a baby (resulting in eczema), it will probably overreact to food proteins encountered via the gut (resulting in food allergies), pollen proteins encountered via the nose (resulting in allergic rhinitis) and proteins encountered via the lungs (resulting in asthma) as your child grows. This does not mean that every child will develop all of the above, but we need to keep our eyes open for the signs and symptoms.

Children and adolescents with eczema can also develop ADHD, depression or anxiety disorders. This is thought to be caused by the lack of sleep due to night-time itching, the psychological stress of having a chronic disease as well as the effect of chronic inflammation on the developing brain.

There is also an association between Autism Spectrum Disorders and eczema. Children diagnosed with eczema before the age of 2 has a slightly higher risk to be diagnosed with autism later in life. This relationship is still being investigated, but it is thought that the different inflammatory markers (especially the cytokines) may play a role.

Eczema can thus affect all areas of your child’s life and they need close follow-up and care.

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”

1 Peter 5:7

Making the Diagnosis:

Your GP can make the diagnosis by taking a good history and doing a quick examination of the skin. General practitioners should be able to treat mild cases, but if initial management does not work, it is better to follow up with a dermatologist and/or pediatrician to ensure good control of the disease.

Some diseases that could mimic eczema or that should be excluded are:

  • Allergic or Irritant Contact dermatitis: This is when the skin reacts to a known allergen (eg a piece of fish touches your child’s hand he will get a rash only on his hand) or an irritant (eg your child wears new shoes and the rash is only visible where the shoe touched the foot.)
  • Seborrheic dermatitis: mostly in infants. They develop a greasy red rash with scales on their scalp, eye brows and in their skin folds that is not itchy.
  • Psoriasis: chronic auto-immune skin disease with red skin patches with a silvery scale. Rare in children
  • Scabies: infection of the skin, very contagious, also very itchy. Usually there is a specific rash on the palms or in between the fingers.
  • Certain drug reactions
  • Primary immunodeficiency syndromes: here a lack of a certain part of the immune system may result in a rash on the skin.

Thank you for all your questions that helped me to write this post, I have also learned a thing or two while reading the latest research. I hope that you will feel more confident in understanding what eczema is and how it works and that this will empower you to tackle this journey with your child. Find a caregiver that you trust and will take alongside you on this journey. Treatment is available, and we will discuss it in tomorrow’s post.

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”

Friedrich Nietzsche

Pediatrics and Playdough & Medicine Mommy SA

Resources:

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  • http://www.uptodate.com
  • Thank you to the “National Jewish Health” site for the illustration.